A black spot on parenting

This thought came into my mind when I was watching a crime show in television. It involved a murder mystery  of a couple of youngsters  in the depths of a jungle. Though the location was staged to be a suicide, forensic details and amazing investigation brought out the matter of honor killing.                                               The youngsters were a couple who had decided to spend their lives together against the wishes of their parents.Since they belonged to different communities the families had been at loggerheads against the match and fight ensued, forcing the couple to elope and hide their true identity. But at this point of time, family pride, honor and casteism took the upper hand over parental affection, thus causing their death.

 This situation makes me wonder what sort of parenting is this. When the child is born, it is completely dependent on the parents to guide him or her in their lives. The child is too innocent to think otherwise and adapts all that he or she is taught by parents and family.

 When they grow up, decide their future based on the intellect collected so far, isn't it upto the parents and family to accept and support their decisions. 

If they doubt these decisions does it not mean that they doubt the basic integrity of their teachings to their children. 

Why does the child always have to be on the receiving end of advice even when he or she is economically independent and well educated.

Does being a parent make us have an upper hand on the lives of the children always. 

Any relationship is better nurtured and enjoyed when it is a two way path of give and take. There should be a give and take of ideas and thoughts between parents and children too for a good life for both. Humans learn in a gradual and continuous process all along in their lives. We, being parents can learn from our children too. Just because you are the parent does not mean that you know everything in life. 

This post is not in casteism or honor killing or family pride. It is not to discuss the the pros and cons of love marriages though that can be discussed later. This is about how open are we to learn from our children. 

Please feel free to discuss and make your point in this post on the comment section