Crime at bay

A thought I have mused for long when I see crime shows or the news is when I see young hardenned criminals,they may be robbers,serial killers,psychopaths or rapists,I wonder,they could not have become what they are in a day.

It must have happened in a gradual process.Either some trauma in their childhood or their parents neglect or their own mental state could be the reason for the gradual degeneration of their minds which took them to this condition.

      If we think of it ,lying is not morally correct,but our parents resort to lying often to cajole us into eating or to discipline us into a routine.That seems to be justified for the upbringing of children.

     Sometimes the kid catches on to lying.

  The mother is aware as she spends more time with a child.But she may ignore it out of affection and sometimes even hide it from her family members.                        Some kids may misunderstand this behaviour and grow this habit thinking that their mother would support them unconditionally.By the time he or she becomes a criminal,parents opinion would not matter.

So my point of this post is when is that point of the life of a waylaid teenager when he or she can still be corrected and moulded into a responsible law abiding citizen.

Whose responsibility is it to keeps watch.I think that we need to work as a society,the parents,familymembers,teachers,friends, competitors,peers towards the growth of an individual.

All children are special and unique.It is our duty to make them a good person.So being a parent is not a big deal ,being a good human is so that we can keep crime at bay.

Not to err

Hi friends, hope all of you are doing well. Today I came across a common saying 'To err is Human.'

It is true, humans make mistakes, repeat them, learn from them. But make some other mistake the next time. 

There should have been a modification to this saying, 'Others make mistakes, I don't. But I pay for their mistakes'.

Don't you think this is right.

The basic fact here is that we need to accept our mistakes. If to err is Human then being a human you can too make a mistake. Or else you are not a human. 

Our ego comes in between the path of acceptance. 

To form that ego you need to have some existensial capabilities. So when you are capable of some work, then how is it possible that whatever you do is right. 

What is right for you may be wrong for another person. 

Let us take an example, a theif steals for his survival. He is involved in an unlawful act according to the society, but according to him he is right. He is earning to fulfill his needs. If we say he is wrong, then we need to give him an opportunity to correct himself, offer him an earning opportunity where he earns more and with respect without the fear of being caught. 

Only when he is given this option will he consider that there are better ways available. So, indirectly he is accepting his mistake. 

Instead of only punishing him for his crime by putting him in jail, we should help him earn in a lawful way, showing him the other side of the coin without showing him his half of coin is spoilt. 

So before we blame another person for any difficulties, we need to sit calmly, analyse the situation , think of how it can be sorted, THINK OF OUR CONTRIBUTION TO IT. 

Power of our will

Hi friends, good morning to all of you. Before I write about the topic, I want to narrate a story, please do not think this is out of my imagination, it happened to me for sure.

One day, some eight months back, as I was stepping out of my house to go shopping, I heard a voice from outside my gate, calling out to me to go inside. Perplexed, I searched who it was, it was a kind security guard doing his rounds, who happened to see a cobra near my gate, warned me to avoid an encounter with it. I rushed in and closed the door. 

As I stood watching from my front room window,the cobra moved towards my house and onto my porch, I pleaded with the security guard to call for help as I could not think of anything else.

He assured me that he had called for help and would wait till help arrived. 

All the while I was fervently praying that the snake would go away or be caught.

As the snake Catcher came I heaved a sigh of relief that my prayers had been heard. He combed the entire area of my garden but the cobra was too fast for him. 

Assured that there was help outside, I went out to get the contact numbers of the two kind gentlemen who offered to help me. 

They repeatedly assured me that the cobra had left the premise of my house and if there was any other incident in future, they would be ready to help. 

Now coming to the topic of this post, I think all my close friends know how scared I am of snakes and many other pests. It took a lot of will power to convince myself that I had to live my normal life in the midst of all these animals. Each time I stepped out the front door, I could see the cobra in my porch. But I could not shut myself inside because of this fear. I had to go about my regular duties. I put all my will to push these thoughts out and started living my normal life. 

This only made me think of the power of our will, our mind. Our mind is very strong, any positive or negative vibe believed strongly by our mind always happens. 

There may be many instances that have happened in your life too, but you may have forgotten due to the busy schedule of your lives. I want you to share such instances with me. 

Pros and cons

Hi friends, today the post is about social media. The irony is that I am sharing the pros and cons of social media on social media itself.

   Earlier, we used to communicate through letters, telegrams and post cards.Most of the kids of the new generation would not have even seen a post card. It was a wonder how someone could communicate their thoughts and feelings through words which anyone could read. Read between words was very effective back then. 

Then came the world of internet, sms, pager when by clicking a button you could inform anyone in any part of the world. 

Humans are so adaptible that we adjusted our requirements according to the mode of communication that was available. 

Now is the time of social media where anyone can communicate and connect with anyone else, they can be unknown to each other. 

But the basic fact remains that the two people involved are connected to each other in some way, in their thoughts, actions, sentiments or feelings. 

So when the purpose is still being served, why is that a big issue. 

The context of this post is that last week Sushant Singh Rajput committed suicide. For whatever reason it may have been was his personal issue. There are lakhs of people expressing their opinion on different social platforms. 

Some are expressing their disbelief, some their compassion, while others are expressing their feelings only because they want to keep up with the others. 

Some are having an issue with this third category of people, as to how hypocrite they are. Eventually we are all hypocrites in our heart, but do not want to accept it. 

My take on this is that social media is a medium to express ourselves to others, so when we can accept it for the advantages of how well we can connect with like minded people and share our ideas and grow, why cannot we accept the disadvantages of  social media too. 

Why do we have to criticise another person for their message, after all that is what social media is for, and that is what any person is doing now. 

Everyone wants to be heard and accepted, so let us just read what we want to read and ignore what we do not want to. 

What do you feel about all this. 

Acknowledge urself

Hi friends, today's thought is unique. I was wondering why I had never thought of this till now. Self introspection has been my method of self motivation, but how did I never come across this thought before.

 Before you get bored and move on, I think I will come to the point. As an artist I always wait to get some appreciation for my work  each time I create something new. But today I realized that not only an artist, each human being craves for appreciation, be they a five year old or an old grandma.

What we actually want more than appreciation is acknowledgement. For everyone known to us to accept that we exist, that we matter, that we r a part of this society. 

What we don't realise is that when we seek appreciation or compete with others for attention we actually acknowledge ourselves, our talent and capacity.

So we should compete more, because the more we compete with others the more we will acknowledge ourselves. 

I am not meaning for everyone to be selfish and only put ourselves before everyone, but,care for others, give more, be a good person and improve your nature, to acknowledge that u matter to this society. 

If each person thinks like this,the world will soon be a better place to live in. 

So, start today, read this post, and leave your comments. Acknowledge ur self and express your thoughts. Bye. Take care. 

A black spot on parenting

This thought came into my mind when I was watching a crime show in television. It involved a murder mystery  of a couple of youngsters  in the depths of a jungle. Though the location was staged to be a suicide, forensic details and amazing investigation brought out the matter of honor killing.                                               The youngsters were a couple who had decided to spend their lives together against the wishes of their parents.Since they belonged to different communities the families had been at loggerheads against the match and fight ensued, forcing the couple to elope and hide their true identity. But at this point of time, family pride, honor and casteism took the upper hand over parental affection, thus causing their death.

 This situation makes me wonder what sort of parenting is this. When the child is born, it is completely dependent on the parents to guide him or her in their lives. The child is too innocent to think otherwise and adapts all that he or she is taught by parents and family.

 When they grow up, decide their future based on the intellect collected so far, isn't it upto the parents and family to accept and support their decisions. 

If they doubt these decisions does it not mean that they doubt the basic integrity of their teachings to their children. 

Why does the child always have to be on the receiving end of advice even when he or she is economically independent and well educated.

Does being a parent make us have an upper hand on the lives of the children always. 

Any relationship is better nurtured and enjoyed when it is a two way path of give and take. There should be a give and take of ideas and thoughts between parents and children too for a good life for both. Humans learn in a gradual and continuous process all along in their lives. We, being parents can learn from our children too. Just because you are the parent does not mean that you know everything in life. 

This post is not in casteism or honor killing or family pride. It is not to discuss the the pros and cons of love marriages though that can be discussed later. This is about how open are we to learn from our children. 

Please feel free to discuss and make your point in this post on the comment section